NIJIIRO PARENTING BOOKLET

ELEMENTARY SCHOOL

Children's Voices

I truly hated school swimsuits!

I was called a “man-woman” when I had my hair short.

Going to the toilet with others was difficult when there were only girl/boy options.

My teacher changed my non-binary pronouns on my writing assignment.

I was made fun of when they found out I liked girl warrior anime. ”But you’re a boy”.

My parents allowed me to choose my school bag color freely, yet when I chose blue, I was told to change to sky blue.

Parents' voices

A surprising amount of school supplies such as calligraphy sets, sewing sets are still divided into “feminine” and “masculine” designs.

I want to support my child to dress however they want, but others tell us “it is a pity she doesn’t dress more lady-like”.

Happy memories

They let me play in the boy’s team when I wanted to play soccer!

When I told my teacher I disliked being called by feminine pronouns, everyone started calling me by non-binary pronouns.

The outfits my grandparents bought were too lacey and flowey(hirahira), but my parents let me dress however I want.

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くまのトーマスはおんなのこ

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ふたりママの家で

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JUNIOR HIGH SCHOOL

Children's Voices

After realizing I was different, I obsessed over how others saw me.

I secretly searched for and read Greek mythology portraying homosexuality in the library.

I stopped hanging out with friends of the opposite gender when we were teased.

School staff voices

LGBTQ members exist within the school staff. I have told the principal about myself, but have not told the PTA and education boards. Therefore I struggle to come out in the classroom.

Happy memories

My teacher let me go to school wearing my gym wear when I told them I didn’t want to wear skirts.

My parents had tears in their eyes watching a TV drama about LGBTQ matters.

Our studies show LGBTQ members report that upper elementary to middle school years were the most difficult. Puberty, gossiping, limited relationships/friendships, bullying…We must let them know they are not alone.

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